The holidays can be a wonderful time for connecting with family and friends and taking a much-needed pause from our busy routines, but for people living with substance use disorder, the festive season often brings added stress and emotional pressure.

This time of year often includes more social invitations, many of which center around alcohol. For people in recovery, it can be a balancing act to celebrate with loved ones while maintaining boundaries.

With a bit of planning and self-awareness, these situations can be navigated more safely. 

Here are a few helpful tips from someone with personal experience moving through the holidays in recovery.

Make a Plan

Know where you are going, who will be there, what the environment might look like, and how long you plan to stay. If alcohol will be present, think ahead about how you want to respond if offered a drink.

Set Clear Boundaries and Stick to Them

It’s okay to leave early, skip certain events, or say no altogether. Protecting your recovery is not rude or selfish, even if others don’t fully understand.

Bring Your Own Nonalcoholic Drink

Already having something you enjoy in your hand can ease social pressure and help you feel more comfortable. It also reduces the need to explain yourself repeatedly to hosts who simply want to make sure you’re taken care of.

Bring Support When Possible 

Attending with a trusted friend, partner, or family member who understands your recovery can make a big difference. Let them know ahead of time what you might need.

Have an Exit Strategy

Drive yourself, arrange a ride, or set a clear time limit so you can leave if things become overwhelming. Simply knowing you have a way out often makes staying feel more manageable.

Stay Connected to Recovery Supports

Extra meetings, regular check-ins with a sponsor, or reaching out to sober friends can help counterbalance the added stress that often comes with the holidays.

Above all, be honest with yourself. If an event feels too risky, it is okay to sit it out. Missing one gathering is far less costly than risking your recovery. Your well-being matters, and the holidays are only meaningful when you can move through them safely and with care for yourself.

Wishing you a holiday season where your well-being comes first, filled with genuine connection, supportive relationships, and moments of authentic joy. Take care of yourself and remember, your health and recovery are truly the best gifts you can give and receive.

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Chris Peters is a recovery advocate and community outreach professional who helps connect individuals and families with resources that support long-term sobriety and healthier lives.

Livengrin Foundation is a Bensalem-based nonprofit providing comprehensive substance use disorder treatment and recovery services, with a mission centered on dignity, access to care, and lasting recovery.